
This guide is for high-functioning women 40+ who keep Googling, questioning, and circling but know, deep down, something isn’t working.
Written by a former college professor who lived the questions you're still asking.
Tried to convince yourself it’s not that bad.
You’ve read the blogs. Listened to the podcasts. Taken the quizzes.
Googled "Do I have a drinking problem?" more times than you’d admit out loud.
So let’s just start here:
If you’re asking that question, you already know.
And if you’re here, you’re not looking for a label.
YOU'RE LOOKING FOR CLARITY


The 3 most common (and unhelpful) questions keeping smart women stuck in drinking limbo
Why these questions feel deep — but secretly sabotage your momentum
A more honest set of questions to ask yourself
The real reasons behind your hesitation, fear, and second-guessing
A next step that isn’t overwhelming, shaming, or "all-or-nothing"

High functioning but quietly worried

Tired of circling between moderation and regret

Not interested in labels, but deeply ready for truth
I spent 20 years as a college professor while privately trying to manage my drinking.
This isn’t a "sober guide."
It’s a clarity guide.
It’s the one I wish someone had handed me when I was still trying to pretend everything was fine.

And get honest answers to the questions that keep you stuck.
No labels. No pressure. Just clarity.
And a chance to meet yourself again.